Tough Psychology: Freeing Ourselves from Our Ghosts

Uncategorized Jan 17, 2019
"Feeling inadequate has a universal zip code." - Victory Ford on Season II of NBC's 'Lipstick Jungle'

I'd like to meet anyone who does not have "crises of quality" - OK, fine; this is a phrase I use to mask the feelings of "inadequacy" or "impotence" we all experience at some point(s) in our lives. This is a time when we doubt the quality of God's workmanship in us and feel completely useless and lacking in viability. For many of us, this is a tough season marked by the longest government shutdown in U.S. history, knowing that once this period is over, many of us will be forced to pick through the rubble of the financial aftermath that has hit many of our businesses and homes...

I have to say, however, that the great challenge of our age is not at the bank or on the job, but in the mind. Fighting feelings of inadequacy is a full-time job. Things may even be going wonderfully for us, yet we still feel inadequate. I had to counsel a friend recently who had just began a relationship and was basically sabotaging the relationship because of a "crisis of quality" - also known as "insecurity". There was little wrong with the relationship; she was just feeling threatened and inadequate by, don't laugh…ghosts! Yes, ghosts! The things she'd experienced in the past extended their long arms and were sucking life out of her in the present!

Our mental health is vital to any success we might enjoy - with family, with work, or with others. Nothing threatens our mental health more than feeling inadequate and letting those feelings linger and fester. Chasing ghosts – or letting our ghosts chase us – leads only to frustration. Looking at life as a daily gift, despite our circumstances, changes our approach to things. Then, when we feel inadequate, we realize that it's part of our experience as living human beings; and, armed with that knowledge, we press on knowing that we can and will overcome...

What are you feeling today?


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