Who's Driving? Taking the Wheel on This Roadtrip We Call Life
“...it's not easy when the road is your driver.” - Celine Dion, "When I Need You" (1997)
Have you ever felt that way? Like you had no control of anything? No matter what you did, nothing seemed to go your way? If you have not, I applaud you; you are among a very small minority. For many of us, the road tends to be the driver with such frequency, we budget for it each quarter!
Being in the business of dealing with human behavior and development, it never ceases to amaze me how shocked many of us are when we go through seasons with no maps, no instructions...no direction. Celine Dion, the best-selling female artist of all time, could not have put it more succinctly, nor could she have been more correct, when she prefaced the season with "it's not easy..." As with all posts on this blog, I'd like to shed some light on the role we individually play in the midst of seasons of darkness.
I cannot speak for everyone, but I can certainly speak for myself when I say that sometimes we need to pull over. Yes, the road may wish to be the driver every now and then; however, we have to choose whether to remain clueless passengers or to grab life by the wheel and determine the speed of travel, the vehicle in which we travel, and the baggage we carry. We have to choose whether we trade our victim mentality for a determined and destined one.
We choose...
Of all the marvelous gifts God gave me, I am most thankful for free will - the ability to make choices and decisions. This happens to be the least used gift we possess; especially when sit against the backdrop of a more litigious society that has become less about personal "responsibility" and more about "rights." Before you write to the ACLU about this, let me say that I strongly believe in having my rights - to bear arms, to a fair trial, etc - but not at the expense of shunning responsibility. When a drunk driver is given probation for consuming beyond the legal alcohol limit and hits a couple on a motorcycle head on (nearly killing one and maiming both) and then hits the vehicle behind them, one has to wonder where "responsibility" comes in. Four lives...changed in less than 60 seconds. Yet, the person responsible never gets to answer for it. I'll let you be the judge...
While I deeply sympathize with anyone going through a time where the road taking over as the driver, I have to say that you do have a choice. If you cannot stop immediately, eventually there will be a gas/bathroom stop. Use it to make your escape and determine your path. Refuse to be the victim or a clueless passenger. It's your only life to live. Live completely!
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