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The Practice Of Precision

mindset resiliency Dec 02, 2020

I’ve always been fascinated by the deep connection between horse and rider. Watching my niece compete with such precision and grace is simply amazing. To achieve this level of grace and precision requires timing and connectedness...

To what degree do you deliver precision? I’m not talking about perfection here; I’m talking about accuracy and exactness. Every work and personal product we deliver has our fingerprints on it. Is your fingerprint one of precision?

I’d like to challenge you to begin the Practice of Precision. Think of it as “being exactly that and neither more nor less” — being on the money. That’s how you gain the reputation for being reliable: Precision.

Our roles in life belong to no one but us. If we don’t play them as we ought to (exactly that, no more, no less), then we hurt the production. Again, I don’t mean perfection; I mean playing our part with accuracy.

Here’s an example: My goal as a parent is...

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Those Five Words...

personal growth Nov 18, 2020
My brother, Francis, came to visit us not too long ago. Nothing is better than hosting your big brother, and giving him a backstage pass to your life. He’s extremely proud of me, and that’s probably the very best gift an older brother can give a younger brother...

Just three days ago, Francis turned 50. I love celebrating birthdays. Growing up, we didn’t celebrate Christmas the way it’s celebrated in much of the U.S. — mostly about gifts and less about the company around you. For me, it was all about my siblings coming home and chilling.

Next week, we’ll be celebrating Thanksgiving here in the U.S. It’s my favorite holiday because it reminds me of my Zambian Christmases — all about fellowship, food, and family. Speaking of family, there’s nothing a younger sibling wants to hear from an older one more than...

...I’M SO PROUD OF YOU. These are the words every parent should tell their children, every couple should tell...
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Catastrophizing Isn’t Perspective

personal growth Nov 04, 2020
Salt Lake City is one of my favorite U.S cities to visit. The Avenues is one of my favorite spots. I’ve always been a sucker for elevations. Whether it’s the Munali Hills and Muchinga Escarpment in Zambia, or El Yunque in Puerto Rico, elevations always give me PERSPECTIVE.
 
I’m sure you’ve heard of the phrase “get a life” — I tend to tell my clients “GET SOME PERSPECTIVE.” Without perspective, big becomes small and small becomes big. Without perspective, we take ourselves too seriously. In that state of mind, everyone loses.
 
Whether or not “your” politician or political party won, be sure you GET SOME PERSPECTIVE. It’s a shame that we damage personal relationships for people who come and go; people who use us as a tool. Let’s get some perspective and get our stuff together. Catastrophizing isn’t perspective!
 
I love being a helpful guide for my clients. I get a front-row...
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What Color Is A Zebra's Stripes?

personal growth Oct 21, 2020
What Color is a Zebra?
Black, with White Stripes?
White, with Black Stripes?
 
Growing up in Zambia, these aren’t the “deep philosophical” questions I asked myself (and I don’t remember hearing anyone pose such a question). All I knew was that a Zebra Crossing was a place where humans were legally allowed to cross a road so they weren’t jaywalking. (I know, there’s so much there, but we don’t have time)...🤷🏾‍♂️
 
Questions are so important because, according to the word’s etymology, they help us solve problems, learn, and challenge. Are you like me, and are intrigued by all three of those things?
 
As a Performance Psychologist, I’m paid to solve problems; specifically, performance problems. I’m also paid to learn; about myself, my community, my environment, and my clients. And I’m paid to challenge; myself, my clients, and the status quo.
 
How are YOU using questions?
 
Are you using...
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Why Build A Bridge?

communication Oct 07, 2020
I love bridges...
Golden Gate Bridge. Brooklyn Bridge. Clinton Street Bridge in Defiance, Ohio (shout out to Tabitha’s family in Ohio). No matter large or small, I love them all...
 
Bridges are connectors. They shrink distance. They enable commerce. They mediate relationships. They provide transformative experiences. We often take them for granted, but they serve us and sustain us and our weight (see what I did there?)...
 
Metaphors aside, each of us is a bridge of sorts. If we choose to, we are connectors, shrink distance, enable commerce, mediate relationships, and sustain others when we share the burden of their loads. Key Words: IF...WE...CHOOSE...TO...
 
I might as well get this out in the open: You will NEVER find someone who agrees with you on EVERYTHING. So, stop posturing and acting like you’ve got the corner on the market for rightness. That’s the prerequisite for being a bridge...
 
Our world has many needs to be met. I...
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It’s ALWAYS About The Team

mindset team dynamics Sep 16, 2020
 
Tabitha and me walk a lot. We often observe nature teaching potent lessons. This video is a class we attended on one of our excursions.
 
Lessons from nature pose hard questions about our grit and capacity. Whether it’s wild flowers growing through concrete or ants collaborating on a gathering mission, much can be learned with increased observational acuity...
 
I doubt the ants in this video are best friends, like each other, or always agree with one another’s views. However, these ants are mission-focused and vision-oriented; I can’t think of a successful team that isn’t...
 
Coming from a guy who’s never met a stranger, please hear this: STOP trying to fashion your team around YOUR mission and vision. Whether you lead the team or work on it, the mission and vision has to be bigger than you...
 
We don’t have to be friends to focus on a common mission and vision. We don’t have to like each other either. But we...
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Toughness Training 101

resiliency Sep 02, 2020
My professional career has centered around 4 areas of specialization: Communication, Leadership, Relationships, and Resiliency. In many ways, 3 of these owe their success largely to 1. Any guesses as to which one?
 
If you’ve guessed Resiliency, you’d be correct...
Without Resiliency, communication is only about exchanging messages.
Without Resiliency, leadership is only about power and control.
Without Resiliency, relationships are only about what we can get.
 
Resiliency is a LEARNED skill — one that can’t be taught in a classroom. Resiliency is borne out of the struggle, mistakes, mishaps, and misfortunes that are the rent we all must pay to live on Earth. With the right perspective, Resiliency and it’s acquisition are a beautiful thing!
 
With Resiliency, communication becomes about garnering shared meaning.
With Resiliency, leadership becomes about mission, vision, and people.
With Resiliency, relationships become about mutual...
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Struggling With Perfectionism?

personal growth Aug 19, 2020
 
I recently had the pleasure of coaching someone I care deeply about. She was struggling with perfectionism, and that was affecting her stakeholders.

It was clear that she cared very deeply about her work, and wanted to serve her stakeholders with professionalism and excellence. Sadly, expectations ruined it...
 
Expectations permeate every aspect of human endeavor — they’re inescapable. They’re the fuel that drive many decisions, and often ruin many relationships and aspirations.
 
“Are you asking me to lower my expectations?” she asked. “No. I’m asking you to temper them.” There’s a huge difference between LOWERED and TEMPERED expectations.
 
Tempering is the process of superheating and cooling that results in, say, tempered glass. It’s a lot stronger than “regular” glass. To gain that strength/resiliency, more is required...
 
When we temper our expectations, we season...
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What Are You Doing With This Storm?

resiliency Aug 05, 2020
I don’t know about you, but I haven’t often taken a straight line towards the things that matter and mean the most to me. It’s been a curvy road, often with cliffs on either side...
 
There aren’t many straight roads in the game of life. Straight roads would be too easy. And they often don’t create the strongest of men, women, and children.
 
In the middle of a storm, it’s easy for us to wish for easy. Things can be so hard, we just want a break. Truth is, storms are what make the best sailors...
What are you doing with this storm?
 
Complaining? That’s not a strategy.
Netflixing? That’s not a plan.
Blaming? That doesn’t change circumstances.
 
Kozhi’s Challenge:
Practice EXTREME OWNERSHIP today.
Take FULL, TOTAL, and COMPLETE ownership of your life and your work.
It doesn’t matter who’s to blame for your circumstances. That knowledge won’t change your circumstances. What...
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How We Beat These Times

resiliency Jul 22, 2020
Phenomenology...
...I love it because it captures the lived experiences of an individual at a point in time. I suppose that’s why I love photography. It captures a moment in time and there’s texture, feeling, light, dark, and so much more...
 
This week, I spent time working with a wonderful national leadership organization facilitating a dialogue on the lived experience and how it impacts relationships. Our experiences are filled with texture, feeling, light, dark, and so much more. We can’t run from that...
 
In the middle of our current health and social challenges, let’s engage deeper. Let’s see that there’s texture, feeling, light, dark, and so much more to each person’s experience. Rather than minimizing one another’s experience, let’s dig deeper and engage in them...
 
No one knows my experience like I do.
No one experiences my day like I do.
That is...until someone chooses to listen.
Let’s...
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