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"Mailo" - Yesterday...or Tommorow

Nyanja, like many of the other 60 plus languages of Zambia, is an interesting language. For most who speak only one language, the intricacies of meaning can be lost because they have only one referent. For those who are bi or multi lingual, language is something to behold. As I thought about what to write this week, I was brought back to our propensity for living in the past...

I know...we've talked about this before, but after working with someone who is fiercely fighting a daunting and haunting past, I thought it prudent to address it again. In Nyanja, the same word is used to refer to yesterday and tomorrow. In order for one to know which it refers to, one would need to pay particular attention to the discussion. 

I find that this attentiveness is the same in that which we are to overcome daunting and haunting pasts...

If you're like many of us, stress and hardships have affected you in some small or significant way – whether it be the loss of a...

"Here is the test to find whether your mission on Earth is finished: If you're alive, it isn't."- Richard Bach

Feelings of despair often wrap themselves around us like a warm blanket in the winter. At that point, every decision and motive is filtered through these feelings. We wonder about our worth, our abilities, or if what we have to offer is what the world even desires. Self-doubt becomes our constant companion while we, like Columbus, try to find our way in the vastness of - not the ocean as Columbus - but rather a sea of faces strewn over the earth. And when we make port, thinking we have hit our India, we base our judgments on false information and assumptions that only perpetuate mythical realities...

We've all been there; have we not? Nothing seems to go right. The kids fall ill, one by one; a key account cancels the order that was to make the year for you - and simultaneously significantly alter your net worth; "all of a sudden," you and your significant other take "Men are...

“...it's not easy when the road is your driver.” - Celine Dion, "When I Need You" (1997)

Have you ever felt that way? Like you had no control of anything? No matter what you did, nothing seemed to go your way? If you have not, I applaud you; you are among a very small minority. For many of us, the road tends to be the driver with such frequency, we budget for it each quarter! 

Being in the business of dealing with human behavior and development, it never ceases to amaze me how shocked many of us are when we go through seasons with no maps, no instructions...no direction. Celine Dion, the best-selling female artist of all time, could not have put it more succinctly, nor could she have been more correct, when she prefaced the season with "it's not easy..." As with all posts on this blog, I'd like to shed some light on the role we individually play in the midst of seasons of darkness.

I cannot speak for everyone, but I can certainly speak for myself when I say that sometimes we need to...

Life takes a bit of time and a lot of relationship- William P. Young in "The Shack"

"The world is your stage," I began. "You have a voice. A unique one. One that will surely be missed if you do not speak or sing your lines."

This was my first lecture to my eager Introduction to Speech Communication students some summers back. I was trying to get them to understand how their unique voice was necessary for the "Musical of the Earth" to be a runaway hit. I wanted them to note how their unique voice, set in the backdrop of the "choir" of the world, was especially chosen to sweeten the melodies and symphonies of life on earth. If they failed to speak or sing their lines, it would be nothing short of tragic, dull, and uninspiring...

And that same challenge, I now pass on to you...

You have a unique voice. You are, as one of my favorite authors put it, "YOU-nique." Your experience on earth will be less than complete if you do not speak or sing your lines. How you raise your children, what...

"It's kinda hard being humble in the belly of struggle..." - Busta Rhymes

It's amazing how much we take for granted...our freedom...our ability to breathe "relatively" clean air and drink safe water. However, though simple blessings surround us, we all still encounter hardships and undeniable bumps along the road, as that is just the nature of the life we were given.

In the midst of my own difficulties, I have become acutely aware of the things that some of my friends are currently enduring, and have realized that we all have, or are currently going through much of the same struggles. Not only do we, as a whole, deal with tremendous challenge and pressure, but many also struggle with the reality of disheveled dreams.

This reality tends to blur the vision of our lives and we wonder if we are going to make it. But... "when all you can see is your pain, you lose sight of the most important things...pain has a way of clipping our wings and keeping us from being able to fly...and left un...

My least favorite course in high school was Physics. Mr. Jacob, from India, was a good man with a very distinctive accent, yet, because this course was required, I sat through many classes learning about Newton’s Laws and other components of the course. As I think about the direction that this post (and others over the next few weeks) will take, and reflecting upon what I learned from that class, I discovered that I am drawn to “energy” – though in a different way than one may assume.

According to my physics class, energy is the capacity to do work. If that is truly the case, it is safe to say that energy is the currency we use to “pay” for life. As I have mentioned before, “time” isn’t what we must manage from day to day; it is energy. How we manage our energy (replenish it, use it, and conserve it) determines how successful and whole our days are. If we expend all our energy at “work”, we come home with nothing left to give to our children and our spouses, for instance. Likewise, if...

“Such a powerful ability, the imagination! But without wisdom, imagination is a cruel taskmaster.”- William P. Young in The Shack

Growing up, I was always dreaming and scheming. I envisioned where my life was going and I imagined what my success was going to be. Thank the Lord, my vision and imagination were taken to heights that I did not even think possible! My move from my parents’ farm in Lusaka West to the Great State of Texas? Never thought that my imagination would take me this far. I truly could go on and on about how the “future” turned out to be greater than I thought it would be as I imagined back then...

The interesting thing about imagination, however, is that it can become like a child running with a pair of scissors – potentially fatal. Our mental energy – something I call “mentergy”– is an amazing tool that must be harnessed and used with wisdom. Use it wisely, and the world will bow at your feet; misuse or abuse it, and you’ll be bound and in the stocks forever.

The...